Getting Personal

                From “Who, me?” to “I do”: marriage, step by step
            
                Whilst no two marriages are the same, there are certain features common to any relationship that lead up to this eventuality. They are worth exploring if only to see if you might be on the path to wedded bliss yourself, and if so, how far along it you are. If you're shopping for wedding gifts, see if you can get some inspiration from GettingPersonal.co.uk's informal look at the road to marriage. 

Stage 1 – That first lingering glance
Meeting one's partner was traditionally done after the couple's eyes met across a smoke-filled room. But now the smoking ban is in force, are relationships doomed outside the fields of pest extermination and firefighting? Probably not. Some awkward types have opted to ignore the smoky room tradition altogether and have met their lovers at work or via a friend, or have taken matters into their own hands and met through a lonely hearts column in a newspaper or online. “Our smileys met over a 2Mb broadband connection” just doesn't have the same ring to it, but it's probably a good deal healthier.

Stage 2 ¬– The introduction
This is a tricky bit. Do you big yourself up or play it straight? If the relationship lasts more than a few days, you might wish you'd been a little more honest about your yacht / Mercedes / talent / friends / job (delete as applicable), but then again if you're too honest you'll probably never make it to Stage 3 anyway. So most people play it safe and don't mention their negative points; by the time these have surfaced the couple will either be hopelessly in love or deleted from each other's phones.

Stage 3 – Dating
Dating sounds so quaint in the 21st century, doesn't it? But you get the picture … going to the cinema, the pub, the football match, the embroidery class; whatever floats your collective boat. It's a phase of innocently getting to know each other whilst still living separate lives.

Stage 4 – Being an item
Now it's starting to get serious. Your social lives more or less revolve around each other, and though you might be allowed to see your friends every now and again, you're under strict instructions regarding your conduct, whether the details are spelt explicitly out or are merely assumed. This is the stage where you will learn the true meaning of the word doghouse, even though you always thought it was nothing more than a sort of kennel. People will also start referring to you as X and Y, rather than just you, and you might get a personalised windscreen sticker if you live in the 1970s.

Stage 5 – Cohabiting
Some couples prefer to wait for stage 6 or stage 7 before sharing a home, but as a test of the strength of your affection for each other's bedroom, bathroom and kitchen habits, it is invaluable. 

Stage 6 – Engagement
You are so sure of your love for each other that you decide to get married and make your intentions clear with a ring and maybe even a party. To potential suitors, you are officially out of bounds. One of you might suggest a joint bank account or a mortgage. This is a test. Nobody knows the right answer. You'll also be arranging the special day and compiling a list of wedding gifts during this time, so it's all great fun!

Stage 7 – Marriage
That first meeting, be it hazy or high resolution, is but a distant memory as you make your vows and declare your love in public. Whether it's at a place of worship, a registry office or some other romantic location, it's the culmination of one long procession of events … and the start of another one.